How To Get More Balance In Your Life
Words By: Margaret Galang, YMF Founder
Following on from last week’s blog, I spoke about how it’s not possible to have a perfectly balanced life all the time and that’s ok. We just need to remember to make some adjustments when we realise our lives have gotten out of balance so we can keep everything in order and smooth sailing. So here are my tips on how to get more balance in your life!
Make a list of all the things in your life that are a priority and number them in order of importance.
When making this list, think about – What makes you happy? What do you love doing? What are you passionate about? Once you have your list, think about how you can make more time for the top 3 things on your list.
Create a weekly schedule that works for you.
The beauty of life is that you have the power to design it however you want! For example, if family is on your priority list, then set aside time each week to do the things you love to do together. If exercise is on your priority list, then schedule in your weekly exercise routine and treat it like it was any other important appointment that you cannot reschedule. I know there are some things in life that we may not have control over, e.g. work hours, so for those things, you may need to work around them. But for everything else that you do have control over, make sure you design your schedule so you fit in all the things on your priority list.
Communicate with your partner and work as a team.
As I mentioned in my previous blog, juggling life after kids is hard work. Not only do you have to work out your schedule to fit in the things you want to do, but you also have to work around your partner’s schedule too. Communication and compromise is the key to making sure both you and your partner are happy. Always aim for a win-win outcome!
If you have figured out a schedule that works for you then you have to be disciplined enough to stick to it! Do your best not to schedule in other things during the times you have set for your priority list. That’s a sure-fire way to lose the balance!
Always allow for the unexpected.
Because with kids, the unexpected always happens! (You know – they get sick, tantrums, nappy explosions, falling asleep at the wrong times etc. etc.) Don’t jam pack your schedule and always leave room for flexibility.
Don’t let mothers guilt consume you.
I will finish off on this note and just touch on it quickly (as mother’s guilt deserves its own blog!) but I know all of us mums feel mother’s guilt, it’s only natural. You may feel guilty for scheduling in time to do the things you want but this is the very reason we try to have balance in our lives – so we can have it all and everyone is happy, including you! You were once your own person, and you still are even though you are a mum. We mustn’t forget about our own identity, that is important! (More on this in the coming weeks).